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Last weekend our church had a youth dance for the youth in our area. Bryton is the Young Men’s President so he kinda needs to be at these things. I haven’t been to any youth dances in a while mainly because I stay home to take care of Aston, but also because the last thing I want to do is hang out with teenagers *insert laughing emoji here*. But last week I decided that it might be a cool time to hang out with my husband and count it as a date. I was looking forward to it until it came to the end of the work week and I was exhausted! Side note: Being a working mum with a toddler (heck, just being a mum) is a lot of work and while it is very rewarding it is also exhausting!
So I was prepared to stay home, in fact, at 6pm I was in my pyjamas sleeping on the couch while Aston entertained herself. But then in walked our niece, my sister-in-law, my mother-in-law, and their friend. I thought they were throwing a party with the amount of people walking into our house! Haha! So I slapped on some make up, brushed my hair, and put on a dress. And with a little resistance, I walked out the door. But when we got there I found a few friends I got to catch up with, we hung out with some of the youth, and we had fun dancing! Somewhere in the 4 hours we were there, I found my social life again! It had been missing for some time and I hadn’t really bothered looking for it. #MumLife was my life now – or so I thought. We had SO. MUCH. FUN.
The next day we spent the morning with our daughter, then headed to a baptism. That evening we had a birthday for our Aunty. On Sunday we had church and in the evening we went to a youth fireside, and that always offers good socializing opportunities. I’m an extrovert, so I thrive off socializing. Whenever I leave an event after talking to people I ALWAYS feel so satisfied and energized! (The complete opposite to my husband). I’d forgotten this part of me. It was almost as if I’d lost it after I had Aston and I found it again over a weekend of talking and catching up with people!
So I thought that I’d go to youth night tonight with Bryton. I knew that Aston was a little tired, but I decided to go anyway, because I knew it was an opportunity to socialize again! And I’m not sure I’ll do that again, haha. Aston was good, but she was also very tired. She has kohanga during the week – the main reason I don’t usually go to mutual, as she needs early nights on school nights. I figured that there is a line between socializing and responsible parenting. Tonight I probably stepped a little out of the “responsible parenting” box to satisfy my needs to socialize with other adults. I guess that’s something I need to learn as a new parent. When is it appropriate to go out and spend time with friends? Again, it comes down to “what is best for Aston?” That question often pops into my head and is the motivator behind most of the decisions I make these days. But I feel so strongly about putting your spouse first and allowing time for yourself! You can only take care of others when you’re taking care of yourself, #amiright? Ugh, adulting is hard and parenting seems like another level higher and I’m totally not qualified for that!